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| | self esteem course: 9. the barriers to self-esteem |
 | | In participating in this triangle, we are, perhaps surprisingly, expressing hostility: our generosity is not freely given but contingent upon some reciprocal gratitude; we demonstrate what a superior, nice person we are which also demonstrates a covert disrespect for others (see "To, For and With"). |
 | | It is possible to do someone a favor without all this drama, but if you get yourself into a Karpman triangle, that is, start feeling abused and angry, look carefully at what you've been doing --the person you've been doing the favor for is you, not the other person. |
 | | Doing someone a favor in the mode of the drama triangle is a hostile act toward the other. |
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