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	Shidduch and Dates
		Shidduchs are very common amongst the religious for centuries as the proper means to meet their life mate.
		In a shidduch, a neutral place (which is not a place of entertainment) is selected, and the conversation is the main focus.
		A shidduch is a hands-free event, for the schmuching (hugging and kissing) would cloud the purpose of the event, the proper evaluation of the other.
	www.jewishmag.com /63mag/shidduch/shidduch.htm (1414 words)

	Shidduch - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
		Shidduch (or shiduch) (Hebrew: שידוך, pl. shid[d]uchim שידוכים) means a "[a] match" between a man and a woman, as well as the system of introducing eligible and marriageable singles to each other in Orthodox Jewish communities.
		In many groups belonging to Orthodox Judaism, dating between the sexes is limited to the search of a partner for marriage, and only follows a period during which both sides (usually the parents, close relatives or friends of the persons involved) make inquiries on the prospective partner, e.g.
		A shidduch is often begun by a suggestion from close family members, friends or by people (men and women) who have made this process their hobby or even their vocation (a shadchan).
	en.wikipedia.org /wiki/Shidduch (1077 words)

	Dallas Chapter of the Chofetz Chaim Matchmaking
		What is permissible to relay in the early stages of the shidduch process may actually be prohibited further along in the procedure without permission from a rav (Rabbinic authorigy).
		If the person requesting the information will decide not to pursue the shidduch after you transmit a small portion of the information, then one must stop at that point, because any further information is not for a consructive purpose.
		If the information is so serious that you feel the shidduch should not proceed, try to achieve that outcome through another means, perhaps by asking someone respected by the family involved to simply advise strongly against the match.
	home.earthlink.net /~depsteintx/shidduch.html (781 words)

	Shidduch
		Shidduch (or shiduch) (Hebrew: שידוך;, pl. shid[d]uchim שידוכים) means a "[a] match" between a man and a woman, as well as the system of introducing eligible and marriageable singles to each other in Orthodox Jewish communities.
		In other words, a marriage that is arranged so completely that the prospective couple has not even seen each other is strongly discouraged, as it is likely to be uncomfortable for the couple, though in no way doomed to be without love, for that is dependent upon the grace of G-d.
		Yet it appears to be the only viable solution within the Orthodox community for enabling an Orthodox couple to meet and hopefully marry, while adhering to the halakhic strictures of Tzeniut, which tend to limit male-female interaction.
	www.love.tiptophot.com /Shidduch.html (800 words)

	a_delicate_balance
		What is permissible to relay in the early stages of the shidduch process may actually be prohibited further along in the procedure without a heter from a rav.
		However, to the couple involved in the shidduch this level of expressiveness might be well within the range of normal, not at all worthy of note.
		One is not permitted to request information for shidduch purposes from a known enemy of the prospect or his family or even someone who is known to have had a disagreement with them.
	www.shidduchim.com /balance.htm (3035 words)

	JDater » Blog Archive » Yeshiva girls, Shidduch dates, and Sexual Satisfaction (Site not responding. Last check: 2007-10-10)
		She tells me how the girls in the class take notes and brainlessly copy down every word that is said by the Rabbi, and how the topic of discussion the other day was what the appropriate threadcount for stockings.
		A shidduch for those that don’t know, is basically a blind date where the people have been set up or matched by a third party.
		So the story goes that the guy calls her, and immediately starts grilling her on religious questions and how she plans to act and be observant when she is married.
	www.jdater.org /blog/?p=45 (500 words)

	The shidduch crisis VS. non-kosher chickens « Frum Satire: The Rantings of A Frum Yid With A Warped Perspective
		Every week in the shidduch articles in the Press one may see all sorts of young girls complaining about people who automatically assume they are either engaged or looking.
		I wonder of all the bulimics were laughing as the frummies who ate the chickens were trying desperately to stick their fingers down their throats to cough up any remaining chicken residue that may be still on their stomach linings.
		This entry was posted on Tuesday, October 24th, 2006 at 9:20 p10 and is filed under Shidduch rantings, Frummies: a satirical exploration.
	frumsatire.wordpress.com /2006/10/24/the-shidduch-crisis-vs-non-kosher-chickens (1522 words)

	Appropriate Shidduch Questions
		This is not meant to be an exhaustive and completely refined list, and in fact I hope that singles and those who act on their behalf will use these questions as a starting point for looking at themselves and others in a more meaningful and dignified way.
		In addition, I wish to draw attention to the fact that, unlike the usual shidduch questions that will hopefully soon be obsolete, these questions are not meant to be answered in ten seconds or less; they are all entirely open-ended.
		It is not necessary for someone to respond in great detail to all of the questions, but the more one reveals about his true self (both to others and to his own self), the easier it will be to clarify what one truly wants and needs in a potential spouse.
	www.jewishpress.com /page.do/19423/Appropriate_Shidduch_Questions.html (1078 words)

	Welcome to the NCSY Message Board
		cuz when ppl refer to shidduch dating they make it sound like shidduch dating IS having his friend and her friend set them up with each other.....
		"Shidduch dating" means dating with the intention of finding a life partner/spouse, as opposed to dating for a good time with no plans for or possibility of a future.
		What "shidduch dating" refers to is the goal, not necessarily the method.
	www.ou.org /ncsy/projects/messageboard/shidduch.htm (800 words)

	Star-K Kosher Certification - Kosher Consumer
		Although none of the shadchanim of these three young women qualified for the $2,000 cash gift, since the kallahs were all under the qualifying age of 22 years and 2 months, they were amongst the first to be answered, as everyone in the office davened for the program’s success.
		Equally as amazing, was the shidduch inspired by a long distance telephone conversation between cousins in Silver Spring, Maryland and Yerushalayim.
		It was not a coincidence that the call was placed from the States at the exact time her cousin’s single British guest was visiting from London.
	www.star-k.org /cons-new-bignews-shidduch.htm (1512 words)

	Beyond BT » Blog Archive » Shidduch Considerations - Seeing Challenges As Opportunities for Growth (Site not responding. Last check: 2007-10-10)
		Therefore, they are marks against me on the “shidduch market.” You often hear people say they want a girl from a “good” family, someone who has a great relationship with their relatives, someone not from a “broken” home.
		I think this is manifested by the fact that people nix a potential shidduch before they even know anything about the person, though they seem to know more about that person’s past and familial relationships than does the FBI.
		So on the shidduch scene I was a BT who for the Cohen halachic requirements could hardly find a BT to date and felt out of step with just about all of the FFBs “redt” to me. Things appeared bleak.
	www.beyondbt.com /?p=337 (4122 words)

	paying
		In any case the second side still needs to pay their part for they were never told that it would be free.
		- If a shidduch was proposed to a man whose wife was dying and after her death the same shidduch was arranged by a different shadchan, it seems that the law would be that the first one doesn't receive anything but it would be better to work things out between the two.
		- When A asks a shadchan to arrange a shidduch with the daughter of B then A is considered the maschil of his own side and B needs to pay the shadchan (at least) as the maschil of that side.
	www.geocities.com /bochrimlist/paying.html (734 words)

	Eternal Joy - Volume 1: Siblings and Relatives
		It would also be appropriate that in addition to the forgiveness, the younger sister as well as the parents set aside some money for the wedding expenses of the elder sister, to be utilized when she becomes engaged in a good and auspicious hour.
		Since matters of a shidduch are for the sake of an eternal edifice, it is understandable that one should not hasten and pressure that the shidduch be finalized as quickly as possible, when the difference is only in a matter of a few days.
		Although you are correct when you write that this should not serve as an obstacle to the marriage of a sister [when older brothers are not yet married,] nevertheless, it would be worthwhile to discuss this matter with a rabbi in your environs who actively rules on matters of Jewish law.
	www.sichosinenglish.org /books/eternal-joy-1/15.htm (4203 words)

	Beloved Children by Rabbi Yisrael Pesach Feinhandler - Parshas Noach
		In those days, when someone was recognized as a genius, he would be offered a shidduch at the age of twelve and would marry at thirteen.
		He was offered a shidduch with the daughter of a wealthy man of the city, and was promised a large sum for his nedunya (dowry given by the bride's parents), plus support for the rest of his life.
		It was customary at that time to invite the chasan and his family to the house of the kallah for a meal, and this is what the wealthy man did.
	www.torahsearch.com /page.cfm/3399 (2797 words)

	Archives: Story
		There are shidduch groups all over the country, she says, and some are so strict that, even among group members, only initials are used when sharing singles' profiles.
		When people call the shidduch group, Schonfeld explains, the women ask the caller for a bio, a picture (which no one outside the group sees, but it helps the women make connections), and some references.
		People are sometimes disappointed when they call one of the shidduch group members to inquire about a match for a single if they don't get an immediate suggestion.
	clevelandjewishnews.com /articles/2004/09/21/news/local/dmatch0917.txt (1116 words)

	Rabbi Forsythe on Finding Your Zivug - Loshon Hora in Shidduchim
		Revelation of a flaw in a shidduch can be a big mitzva under certain circumstances, especially when it is something that is not obvious or when there is deceit by the shadchan or family.
		When any boy or girl in a shidduch comes from a previously married or divorced mother, when there is any question of validity or acceptability of the get or bais din which produced it, a thorough investigation under the direction of a qualified and G-d fearing rov, is mandatory.
		If only her father is deceiving, you can reveal this to the man if the shidduch depends upon support, but it is better to advise him how to get the support from the father-in-law rather than bust the shidduch.
	www.shemayisrael.com /rabbiforsythe/zivug/loshonhora.htm (8231 words)

	The Jewish Advocate \| This Weeks Issue \| News
		In an era of impersonal e-dating, the women of the Shidduch Connection are working to bring traditional Orthodox matchmaking into the 21st century.
		At present, the Shidduch Connection is a strictly volunteer organization built with the primary objective of making shidduchim — matches — between unmarried Orthodox men and women.
		And when a pairing of names survived the candid evaluation and suddenly became a potential shidduch, the shared smiles were accompanied by a mild pounding on the table and celebratory whooping.
	www.thejewishadvocate.com /this_weeks_issue/news/?content_id=1979 (929 words)

	Beloved Companions
		A certain student in his yeshiva was involved in a shidduch, and since the girl was reluctant to say yes, there was no progress.
		It is to teach us that every shidduch is from Heaven and that G-d takes care of every detail to make certain that the shidduch is successful.
		It was clear to her that all these miracles were signs from Heaven that Eliezer was sent by G-d, and therefore she accepted the inevitability of her marriage to Yitzchak.
	www.shemayisrael.co.il /parsha/feinhandler/index.htm (1532 words)

	The Jewish Observer - The Shidduch Process
		Beyond that, a person should inquire about those aspects of the prospective shidduch that are important to him or her.
		(b) While a prospective couple will generally decide to go through with a shidduch after meeting with each other, and feeling secure in their choice of zivug, there are certain conditions in terms of background, level of observance, family, and future intentions that are to be met.
		When one or the other member of the prospective shidduch gets last-minute cold feet, a note of encouragement from his or her parents based on the pre-shidduch meeting can be crucially reassuring.
	www.shemayisrael.com /jewishobserver/archives/june/interview.htm (1380 words)

	Between the Lines - Jewish and Israel News from New York - The Jewish Week
		He and other rabbis say they are being asked what color tablecloth a family uses for its Shabbat table, whether the mother comes to the table in a dress or robe, what dress size the mother of the girl wears, and the learning abilities of the potential mate’s siblings.
		It is not uncommon for families to mask medical or other problems so as not to devalue their child on the shidduch market.
		It should be emphasized that there are endless variations of the shidduch scene, and perhaps the majority of young Orthodox couples are finding compatibility, fulfillment and great happiness.
	www.thejewishweek.com /top/editcolcontent.php3?artid=142 (846 words)

	JewishJournal.com
		More than 50 percent of the 100 or so attendees are women, 70 percent of those are shadchanim (matchmakers) and the remainder are mostly young Orthodox women in their 20s looking to meet their match.
		As director of Shidduch Programming at NCYI, she believes today’s young Orthodox singles are mostly in need of guidance.
		At the shidduch conference at YINBH, I spy a 30-something pickle man look-alike, sporting a cap very similar to the one Peter Riegert wore in “Crossing Delancey.” However, he appears to be upholding the single and searching cliché — his eyes firmly trained on the girls 15 years his junior.
	www.jewishjournal.com /home/searchview.php?id=13641 (1942 words)

	Shidduch Parsha
		Many ofthe members are becoming involved in the "shidduch parsha" for their sons and daughters of marriageable age (@17.5 +/-10 years).
		In recognition of the issues that such a situation raises, the shul will be offering a series of seminars for parents of prospective chassanim and kallahs.
		This means that you could end up making your own shidduch decision, using your own common sense (rachmana litzlan), rather than with the hadracha of shadchanim affiliated with THE CLUB.
	members.tripod.com /~jewishjokes/shidduch-parsha.htm (1277 words)

	Hineni
		I want to respond to the letter that was printed "Where do I find a shidduch?" Unfortunately, the problem this young man has is a problem that many single`s face.
		These girls are confident in their Yiddishkeit and do not need the applause of their friends and neighbors when they accept shidduchim (and their parents are also unique).
		The menahales of the Israeli seminary that she attended heard about the shidduch, called her talmida and said, "I think that you can do much better than that...Why take a bocher from yeshiva "c" when you can get a bochur from yeshiva "a" (both from the frum world).
	www.hineni.org /rcolumn_view.asp?id=50&category=1 (1654 words)

	Beloved Children by Rabbi YIsrael Pesach Feinhandler - Parshas Chayei Sarah
		Reb Aryeh Leib could not understand why the Chofetz Chaim had refused this shidduch, since the father was known as an honest and generous person and even had a son studying in yeshivah.
		In the meantime a letter arrived from Rubizavitz, saying that the man whom Reb Aryeh Leib had met in Kolevarya had agreed to the match, and invited the Chofetz Chaim and his son to come there to finalize the matter and celebrate the engagement.
		Although the shidduch seemed very attractive, the Chofetz Chaim felt that it was his responsibility to uphold the honor of the Torah.
	torahsearch.com /page.cfm/3445 (3305 words)

	The Shidduch Express Card
		Effecting a SHIDDUCH is as difficult as splitting the Red Sea.
		Recognizing this fact, family, friends and the community at large are trying to assist their neighbors from far and wide.
		The Shidduch Express Card promises to help facilitate this process.
	www.shidduchexpress.com (256 words)

	Medical Issues (The Shidduch Site)
		It is highly recommended, before couples become too involved, to ensure that they are aware of any genetic issues that might impact their future married life and offspring.
		However, if a couple is found to be incompatible, and if they request this information, the couple will be informed of the disease for which they are incompatible, the symptoms, and the specific risks they face.
		Before a shidduch begins (or as early as possible), one or the other parties in the shidduch contacts Dor Yeshorim, and using both each person's anonymous identification number and the birthdate of each person, to check if the individuals together are genetically compatible (as noted above).
	www.shidduchim.info /medical.html (1425 words)

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