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| | Halachah in Brief #32 |
 | | First, let us remember the significance of Yahrzeit for the relatives of the deceased; they say Kaddish on that day, many fast, many learn Mishnayot for the merit of the departed, many visit the gravesite on that day, and many light a Yahrzeit candle to commemorate the day. |
 | | Certainly if someone observed both months on the first Yahrzeit, that person is obligated to observe both days for all time, unless they are matir neder, they annul their implicit vow to observe both months. |
 | | Even if one does this, however, personal humra cannot be used to arrogate to oneself the right to lead the services if there are other hiyyuvim (other people who are vying for the right to lead the community as part of their observances in honor of departed relatives) present. |
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